I hope you will accept that human beings are social. Unless you are totally self-sufficient you depend upon interaction with other humans (1). Going out on a limb just a bit, I submit to you that all of the good things and all of the bad things in this world happen to us because we are social. Our goal in life is to maximize the good things and minimize the bad things that happen to us. Unless you like bad things. But then doesn’t that make them good things to you? I think “there is the rub.” An example of this going on in the world might be one person making light of the prophet of another person’s religion – it’s free speech, right? Then the person with the Prophet threatens the person making light – it’s blasphemy, right? Each person is attacking something fundamental to the other and each is very likely willing to defend their position. Which is good and which is bad? It depends upon your social group. This example is pretty “out there” but also quite real. Versions of this scenario – hopefully much milder – happen all the time within and between social groups. This book is not about identifying the good good and the bad good and the good bad and the bad bad. It is about recognizing what is going on around you and self-assessing your part in it.
(1) I’m not quite sure how total self-sufficiency would be accomplished now-a-days, but it seems at least possible and I hear some people try – which is quite interesting in itself if you really think about it since if they are actually self-sufficient then why do they feel the need to tell someone about it?! Maybe they didn’t mean THAT kind of self-sufficient. Also, if they are THAT kind of self-sufficient, then you would never hear about it so I guess we don’t know, do we? Okay, I’ll stop – for now.